Questions, do you have any?

So I wanted to post something very raw about myself but perhaps I'll put it in a draft first. But here's something cool I wanted to do.


I just simply Googled "Questions" and got these. I know information about myself is very boring but here goes nothing.

50 good questions to ask yourself and others

1. What are your nicknames? What do you prefer to be called?

So I have had a lot of really cool nicknames, some of which are Wonderball, Amirabell, (Dork) but my favourite, I have to say, would have to be my name. Because the meaning is pretty cool, The Light of Princess/Queen/Leader. I know I'm not a very good leader nor do I possess any strong leadership qualities, but it's a prayer. And words are prayers, right?

2. What books on your shelf are begging to be read?

I would have to say, "My Best Friend's Girl" by Dorothy Koomson. Not that I haven't read it, it's because I have read it so many times and I still can't get enough of crying, laughing and bawling my eyes out because of it.

3. How often do you doodle? What do your doodles look like?

I used to doodle A LOT. Like ALL THE TIME. But I stopped since I got discouraged by someone.

4. What do you do if you can’t sleep at night? Do you count sheep? Toss and Turn? Try to get up and do something productive?

Funny since I'm currently awake. I usually put on sleep lullabies from Spotify playlist; they have really great ones. I can't do with white noises, due to my hallucinations.

5. How many days could you last in solitary confinement? How would you do it?

Solitary confinement as in the ones you spend by yourself? I would talk to myself, of course. Not the healthiest way to cope, I would say.

6. Do you save old greeting cards and letters? Throw them away?

I do try to keep letters, since I don't get much of them, but I got these really cool birthday card a few days ago on my birthday from a health store that said I could redeem a birthday girl on my birthday month. We'll have to see.

7. Who is the biggest pack rat you know?

I had to Google this, honestly. Ummm. Probably me. I hate discarding things, but I lose things. All the time. So what's the point, right?

8. When making an entrance in to a party, do you make your presence known? Do you slip in and look for someone you know? Do you sneak in quietly and find a safe spot to roost?

Good choice of words. "Find a safe spot to roost". Weird since I was born in the year of the Rooster. Haha. Anyway. I have. Never. Been. To. A. Party. Unless you count the ones after school plays, where I almost tasted sushi at that time but couldn't because the mother ran out of them?

9. What is your strongest sense? If you had to give one up, which would it be?

I know I am going to sound crazy, but I'm 90% positive that I have sixth sense. Chest pains. If I had to give one up, it would be... Smell. Because I can't imagine not seeing or hearing the most beautiful woman I know.

10. How many times a day do you look at yourself in the mirror?

I have no idea. My bathroom mirror is rather small. I guess if I take a selfie. Which is very rare in itself. I used to hang out with girls who stopped at every car window to look at themselves. Imagine. Me hanging out with 'popular girls'. Crazy, right?

11. What is the strangest thing you believed as a child?

That I was loved.

12. What is one guilty pleasure you enjoy too much to give up?

Hmm. This is really hard. Probably drinking Starbucks.

13. Who performs the most random acts of kindness out of everyone you know?

I'm going to skip this.

14. How often do you read the newspaper? Which paper? Which sections?

I stopped reading the newspaper. Let me tell you why. I had a task one time to research all the different newspaper and see if it had any difference. You know what I found? 

15. Which animals scare you most? Why?

I'm caught between spiders and snakes. Oh, and cockroaches. Especially those flying ones. Urgh.

16. Are you more likely to avoid conflict or engage it head-on?

I love arguments. But I hate conflict. Strangely I always find myself listening to my ego. Does that answer?

17. What was the most recent compliment you’ve received and savoured?

It wasn't recent, but this girl said I was still cute, even not as a kid. Reason being I showed her a picture of me as a kid, since she asked why it was so hard for me to smile. I don't smile much. But that's for another day.

18. What is something about yourself that you hope will change, but probably never will?

My lack of pride. I let people walk over me too much and I know that frustrates a lot of people but I don't know how to stop it.

19. Are you a creature of habit? Explain.

What even is that? You explain.

20. Are you high maintenance? Explain.

In the sense that I'm childish and super insecure, yes. I tend to want attention all the time. It's hard because I feel neglected so I feel the need to secure my feelings by feeding off attention. Which makes me look like a fool.

21. When was the last time you really pushed yourself to your physical limits?

When I was in the army reserve. Me. In the army reserve. I fainted quite a lot. So like... 4 years ago?

22. Do you have a whole lot of acquaintances or just a few very close friends? Why?

Very. Few. Friends. Reason being I'm really awkward to make more friends. 

23. Are you more inclined to “build your own empire” or unleash the potential of others?

Inclined. Hmm. Probably a little bit of both.

24. What’s a strange occurrence you’ve experienced but have never (or rarely) shared with anyone?

Few knows about my hearing stuff and hallucinations but nobody really knows I have touch sensations. Or at least that's what I call them. I feel something, or somebody, touching me and when I look, I see nothing and nobody.

25. What do you think about more than anything else?

I had to really think about this. I think... About death a lot. About heaven. And hell. And which one I'm going to.

26. What’s something that amazes you?

That I'm in love.

27. Do you prefer that people shoot straight with you or temper their words? Why?

I'm really fragile and I cry a lot but I do appreciate honestly. Being slapped with honestly is better. Much better. Just give me time to recollect myself. And please don't mind my words while I'm angry with myself over the truth.

28. Where’s your favourite place to take an out-of-town guest?

I've never taken anyone anywhere. Where I'm from there is literally... Well, I really love library and I know the city doesn't count as "my town" but I would take them there. Libraries, hospitals and airports are my favourite places.

29. What’s one thing you’d rather pay someone to do than do yourself? Why?

I can't think of anything other than beat myself up. Only because I don't particularly know of a technique to beat myself up other than getting someone else to do it.

30. Do you have a catchphrase?

Hmm. None.

31. What’s your reaction towards people who are outspoken about their beliefs? What conditions cause you to dislike or, conversely, enjoy talking with them?

I love to talk about things. Sadly the person I want to talk to most is very busy all the time, so I try not to bother her. But if you come to me, about anything, anything at all, I would mostly reply. Mostly.

32. How and where do you prefer to study?

At the library or in my room at my desk. My father bought me a desk for my high school finals.

33. What position do you sleep in?

I don't know? I literally just fall asleep.

34. What’s your all-time favourite town or city? Why?

I've travelled a bit around Europe and Indonesia and that's all the countries and cities I would know or have been to but I really love Amsterdam. Really fell in love with it. Would love to go back one day.

35. What are the top three qualities that draw you to someone new?

a. Their ability to giggle.

b. Their ability to talk.

c. Their ability to make me talk.

36. How has your birth order/characteristics of siblings affected you?

I'm the third child and I associate a lot of being invisible which I never really liked growing up. You know, to look at other groups of girls and wonder why you're the only one alone and being hit on by the creepy man at the store when you just want to buy a pen. Or when you're eating by yourself and still wondering 24 years down the road what it would be like to have to eat with every day? Because I don't know. Tell me. That would be an interesting topic to talk about.

37. If you could eliminate one weakness or limitation in your life, what would it be?

My negativity. 

38. If you could restore one broken relationship, which would it be?

I'm going to skip this one too.

39. If you had to change your first name, what would you change it to?

Mi. It means beautiful.

40. Do you believe ignorance is bliss? Why or why not?

Yes and no. It's too much of an elaboration. Skip.

41. What do you consider unforgivable?

If you lie to my face.

42. Have you forgiven yourself for past personal failures? Why or why not?

I haven't forgiven myself for being an outcast. I haven't forgiven myself for losing a friend. I haven't forgiven myself for pushing away a friend. I haven't forgiven myself for a failed relationship. Why? Because I don't deserve it.

43. How difficult is it for you to forgive someone who refuses to apologize?

I forgive quite easily. But I do have one hell of a temper.

44.Do you hold any convictions that you would be willing to die for?

Convictions? I don't know...

45. To what extent do you trust people? Explain.

I tend to trust easily and fast. But only for fickle matter. If I'm using the word right. I don't trust people with my feelings. At all. Because I know I'll get hurt anyhow.

46. In what area of your life are you immature?

With attention. And insecurity.

47. What was the best news you ever received?

I don't know.

48. How difficult is it for you to be honest, even when your words may be hurtful or unpopular?

Very difficult. I don't like to hurt people, especially with my words.

49. When did you immediately click with someone you just met? Why? What was the long term result? Conversely, are you close with anyone now that you really disliked at first?

About a year ago. I met this.. girl. The long term result. We're just friends.

50. When do you find yourself singing?

With my favourite songs. Want to know my favourite sad song to sing along to? Last Kiss by Taylor Swift. "..How to be something you miss" breaks my broken heart all the time.

I guess you could try to give these questions a go. And don't answer and skip if you want like I did.

I miss you

I miss you.

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October is such a hard month for me. If I were in a four seasoned country, it would be due to the changing weather. But you and I both know that is not the case.

We met at 15, you and I both were guarded souls. The day you told me that you cannot be friends with someone until you observed them was the day I knew you'd be someone I'd cherished. I didn't know how, but I felt it. And I know you did too.

Your birthday is one week before mine and you acted like him. The two people who could ever screw me over but I'd thank you two. You brought me everywhere you went. Most especially during school hours. You held my hand. Always. You accompanied me. Always. You were my true friend. But you didn't know the pang of jealousy that hit me everytime you met your old friends. To think that you had close friends before me made me angry like the stupid person that I am. I had to talk sense into me; you did not belong to me and you were free to be friends with whoever you wanted.

We became close right away- we were inseparatable. And I loved you like a friend should. You had your issues and I was away from family, living in 'foster care'. I had an episode. And I didn't know until later that you tried to reach me during that episode. I needed someone, and I was mad that I didn't know you were right there for me.

Remember the one time in Science class when you found a glass shard and wanted to slice open your arm and I was sitting next to you and I couldn't watch you hurt yourself that I let you slice open mine? The scar is gone but the pain stayed. Or the times you told me you wanted to end your life and I held your hands so tight and told you that if you go, I'm following because I'll never leave you alone? Even your mother knew me and you dragged me to see her often and it was funny that both our mothers turned out to be teachers.

The year went by so quickly, we never fought and it was almost time for me to return to my hometown. That's when everything went wrong. And it was all my fault.

When I returned, I had all those horrible flashbacks and one day when you needed me the most, I pushed you away. Oh, how stupid I was. And you did nothing. You walked. I cried for so many nights, blaming myself. I couldn't get you back, Akmar, no matter how much I wanted you. You did not deserve the pain I caused you. And 9 years later I still carried this hurt from hurting you. You are now married with the cutest toddler. You are happy. You no longer needed me.

But sometimes at night I remember you. And on the 26th of October, I celebrate your birthday like you were still a friend.

Do you still remember me from time to time?

Dream

This is just going to be my synopsis for something bigger (hopefully).

Laes was going to turn 21 in 5 hours and was in the kitchen baking up her own cake. Living alone at 20 years old has its downs but she didn't mind. But she got a call from an unknown number who claimed to be her aunt/cousin and was to meet her 3 hours after midnight. She was suspicious but she figured, it wouldn't hurt right? She was wrong. Meeting her aunt would change everything. Being her father's mistress' third kid meant something. Now she has to deal with counsils, her extended family and a family heirloom and she had to deal with it for at least 3 years. She couldn't trust anyone but could she trust herself?

Drowning as I breathe

It's time for a post! Aka time for me to rant relentlessly.


So these past few weeks has been dragging me back and forth across a hard, sharp surface, wounding me in every possible way and I've been nothing but weak and falling into the hands of the darkness. Because of this, I haven't been quite myself, struggling with the simplest of things like getting out of bed to following my routines. Let's flash back to a few years.

My parents raised me to be an independent woman. When I'm feeling myself, I know that the freedom and independence they have given me especially was to teach me to walk on my own two feet and I consider myself self-reliant. But I never realized that because of the way I was raised, I became emotionally reliant to others, desperate for validation to see the value of my self-worth. I was desperate for love from my parents, I was desperate for validation from others, I was desperate to grow up and show everyone that I could make it. Well I was wrong. And I've dragged myself so much, one could say I developed a lot of insecurities because of it. And it's time to stop.

I cut myself from one of the few people I truly loved because of an incident and I did it so drastic that it broke me. But how does one say that he/she loves others when they destroy another relationship because of that love? I don't know. Yesterday I crashed and burned and I crawled back to my past spot, hoping that maybe it would heal me. You know how people say that you cannot love others if you don't love yourself first? It's something like that. You cannot be reliant on others to love you while you are breaking, tearing and putting yourself down. And I've been so insistent on getting and finding love that it broke me. Physically and emotionally. And it's time to finally break the bad habit.

But today, for the first time in many days that I was out of bed for a whole day, I finally felt the thrill of living again. I finally looked forward to something, and I finally was content. Maybe it's just for the day, but that's okay. We live day by day, there's no need to feel the pressure of being happy for a long periods of times, it's okay to break once in a while. Then you get up. Then fall. And repeat the process. That's what life is about, right?

Hey there.

I've realized that I've never really written about myself on here, and today I just would like to say a few things.

1. I'm schizophrenic. Yes, that schizophrenic. I've battled with schizophrenia since I was a child, but I've only been diagnosed with it about 3 years ago. I also have social anxiety, depression and bipolar, which makes me have schizoaffective disorder.

Here is a link that will explain what it is;

http://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Schizoaffective-Disorder

A lot of people, especially friends are not aware of this, and yes, I seem pretty normal. It's just a mental thing, and I've struggled daily on fixing myself and fitting in, because what I'm scared of the most is standing out so much that people are intimidated by me. Because of this disorder(s), I've seen psychologists, counselors and therapists. I've stopped therapy for a year now (I think) and counseling for quite a while.

I know what you're thinking, schizophrenia, isn't that disorder linked to something else? Oh, I don't know, aggression? No, not necessarily. Though I do have a bad temper and I used to lash out to people, schizophrenia patients rarely pose harm to people or themselves. As for bipolar, having hypomania has really changed a lot to how I perceive the world. When I'm euphoric, and everything seems better, I feel more grateful towards life to the point that it becomes a sort of addiction. That's another thing that I want to write down.

2. I have addiction(s).

Apart from self-harming and overdosing, I have this bad habit of going back to smoking. I know, I know, it's bad and it's haram. But when I'm feeling extremely low, my impulses drive me back to it and I can't really help it or myself. And I've ended up at the ER countless of times now. I also just got back from there. Heh.

3. I've struggled with my sexuality.

This, I've never truly discussed with anyone, mostly because I was afraid and I'm still afraid. Struggling with sexuality does not mean that I liked girls, or that I didn't like boys, or whatever, it also means that I've grown up hating the fact that I was a girl. I don't know if that makes sense, but I always thought I was born the wrong gender. I was scared of girls pretty much my whole childhood and even now being around girls give me so much anxiety that sometimes I just avoid them. And I know it makes me seem like I hate them or something. So if I have run away from you, no, it's not that I hate you, it's me. I just have a problem or something. I don't know.

4. I had a hard time opening up.

I think the first time I've encountered this problem was when I was 15 years old and I was away from my family for the first time. I was having really bad homesickness and I couldn't talk to anybody, I mean, I was so depressed, but when I was brought to the doctor, I couldn't say anything. What did the doctor tell me? Open up. That was it, that was all, and I've been trying to be more open with my emotions and feelings ever since.

5. I have a scrict policy when it comes to my friends.

I don't know why, and I don't think I've told anyone this before, but when it comes to my friends' pictures of themselves or babies (ESPECIALLY), I just won't like them (on Facebook). I won't comment on them unless absolutely necessary. Not because I don't like them, but because I am very careful to sharing my friends' private lives with other strangers. And you know what they say, the evil eye is very real and very frightening. So if you find me not liking your posts.. you'll know why.

There are other things that I would like to put here, and I don't mean for this to be for a cry of help. No, I'm not trying to reach out, I'm not telling the internet I have issues. I'm sharing mine to tell my friends especially and others, that it's okay. It's perfectly fine, you know? So what, I'm a little crazy here and there, but aren't we all? I'm a mess, but aren't we all? I hope this makes other people feel a little normal, but I had a hard time accepting my (abnormalities)self.

Till again.

I'm dying.

"You're dying."

That was all. That was it.
I looked at the doctor, hoping for more. Why didn't she say more? That's all? I'm dying? No explanations?

I cleared my throat, rubbing the back of my head, "H-how? I feel perfectly fine." That's when my doctor started to explain, something about cancer. Cancer. I heard her, but I wasn't really listening. Not when she told me I had 3 months left, not about my treatment and all the chemotherapy. I cleared my throat again, and tried to remember what the past month had been like.

I've been tired, more so than usual. To top that, I've been having migraines, nose bleeds and blackouts. But how could I have cancer? At the age of 24? It seemed impossible. I started to ask again, but the doctor could see my denial and the way I was excessively trying to swallow and clear my throat, as if it would help the situation.

"Is there anybody who can come and take you?" She finally said, much to my relief, but it added to my anxiety. I was 24, I had no close friends, no family, no spouse. Nothing. "Jeff?" I snorted. The doctor must be kidding. There was no way I was calling him. "Unless you have someone better." I sighed deeply and shook my head quietly.

Half an hour passed as I sat in the waiting room in front of my doctor's office, waiting for the man. Jeff came, in his signature soft blue buttoned-down shirt and black slacks, meaning he came straight from his office.

"Jane?" I didn't look at him, just stood up and walked. I assumed he followed because I heard footsteps from behind and walked to the parking lot. He opened the  door for me, and instead of rebelling like I always did, I took it and got inside his car. It smelled the same citric smell, the way I liked it. "Jane," he started again, "Ms. Grey told me everything. How are you feeling?" I simply shook my head, how are you supposed to feel when you have 3 months to live? When you have cancer? I started to get choked up, and Jeff left it at that. He drove in silence, took me home and didn't call for days on end. I was starting to think that he gave up on me. Maybe he was tired of me giving him the cold shoulder for years, that he was forced to be there for me because I was simply dying. Maybe that was it.

But he showed up again a few weeks later at one of my sessions.